Ask Me Anything

I’m struggling with blogging – and by that I mean how to get back into blogging. In the spirit of wanting to jump-start my writer’s-blocked-mind and be honest and transparent, I’m throwing up this AMA.

I will do my best to answer all submitted questions. Please keep in mind that questions submitted for the purpose of insulting and/or trolling me will be ignored; also, anything that violates my privacy or that of my family will also be ignored. In other words, please don’t be an ass.

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Answered questions:

  • Anonymous asked:
    How many cats do you have?
    • Jenn replied:
      I have two cats - two three month old female siblings, Gersemi and Bastet; and our roommate has a big Oh Lawdy, He Comin' mega chonk, Furburger. Currently we are cat-sitting for a friend, so if you see extra kitties in my Instagram photos, that's why!
  • Anonymous asked:
    Will you discuss where you've been?
    • Jenn replied:
      Yes. It'll take several blog posts to go over the last two and a half years of my life, but in summary: a friend's home, shelter, on the street, psych ward, shelter, jail, rehab, sharing an apartment with a friend, and now having a house with Daniel for our family (and with a roommate - his friend from middle school).
  • Anonymous asked:
    Were you feigning health issues just in order to obtain more and more pain pills?
    • Jenn replied:
      No. All of my health issues were and are legitimate. But I did end up becoming addicted to my prescriptions, and so last spring I put myself into rehab. After being discharged I found an excellent drug and alcohol counselor, and I am prescribed Suboxone both pain management and MAT (medication-assisted treatment) - though since rehab and getting enrolled in D&A counseling and Suboxone, I have not had a single craving/compulsion for any medication.
  • Anonymous asked:
    Are you going to pay back all the money you “borrowed”?
    • Jenn replied:
      Yes. It is not something I am in a position to do right now, but I have a list, and I will follow through with what I said I would.
  • Anonymous asked:
    Why do you always add the qualifier “autistic” when talking about your son? This is something the community specifically works to prevent.
    • Jenn replied:
      You know, this is something I struggle with. On one hand, because I am not autistic myself, and thereby have no "claim", I want to respect those in the community who feel this way. But on the other hand, as the sister to two brothers with autism, and the mother of a son with autism, I want to put it out there that you can be "[something]" and still successful in so many areas of life. This is my honest answer - this is something I do often question myself (and my brothers and my son) about.
  • Anonymous asked:
    What does self-care look like to you?
    • Jenn replied:
      For me, self-care is a balance between acknowledging my limitations and giving myself necessary (and sometimes a few unwarranted extra) breaks, but also keeping myself going. It is all too easy, especially with struggling with both debilitating chronic pain and depression, to fall into bad habits and justifications for those bad habits. Specifically, my self-care routine is about healthy sleep hygiene, good nutrition, tending to my physical and mental health needs (appointments, counseling). It's about staying the course with structure and routine. But it is also about pushing myself to go just a bit further because I need to be able to prove to myself I can. And in turn, when I have those moments where I DO need to take a break, I won't be guilt-tripping and hating myself for having to temporarily throw in the towel.
  • Anonymous asked:
    What is the googles
    • Jenn replied:
      I'm not sure. We better ask Mensas!
  • Anonymous asked:
    Do you still have any online relationships with people you used to, or have they all turned their backs?
    • Jenn replied:
      I am happy to say I am still friends with several people; there are also people who have seemingly disappeared from the internet who I wonder about - and I hope they are okay. And I do have a list of people to make amends to.
  • Anonymous asked:
    Why are so many people asking you such pointed and aggressive questions?
    • Jenn replied:
      I don't know. I mean, it's certainly understandable from those who were hurt by my past actions. Why others feel the need to chime in? Your guess is as good as mine. But I'm a big girl. I can handle it. 🙂
  • Anonymous asked:
    Do you miss anyone from the old Lavish days?
    • Jenn replied:
      I miss Lavish itself! But yes, there are a lot of people I miss - the regular posters, mostly.